I KNOW WHAT IT’S LIKE TO FEEL TRAPPED BY RULES YOU NEVER CHOSE.

Through coaching and conversation, I help you uncover the truth: you were never the problem — the rules were.

YOU MIGHT NOT DESCRIBE YOURSELF AS A CHANGEMAKER OR CYCLE-BREAKER, BUT IF YOU CHALLENGE THE STATUS QUO AND BELIEVE WE ALL DESERVE BETTER THAN THE CURRENT SYSTEMS AND WAYS OF RELATING TO OURSELVES AND EACH OTHER, THEN WE SHOULD TALK.

I'm a transformational coach, speaker and podcaster based in Essex, UK. I'm queer, neuroqueer, witchy and passionate about dismantling systems that harm us.

I’m a parent to two wonderful unschooled children. They’re the best and I wouldn’t be doing what I do without them. I don’t share much about them (much to their disgust) because I value their privacy.

My path to this work didn't make much sense while I was living it, but looking back, it all fits. I absolutely love what I do. Beyond my coaching practice, I'm deeply involved in work that creates real change:

Supporting late-identified Autistic and ADHD folk: As part of the pioneering Autistic-led organisation, Thriving Autistic, I offer post-assessment support for newly identified Autistic and ADHD adults. I also wrote and led facilitation of the ground-breaking Discovery Programme, which was recognised and funded by Rethink Ireland and has helped hundreds of late-identified Autistics internationally to better understand themselves and connect with their community.
 
Advancing LGBTQIA+ wellness: I sit on the Advisory Panel for Proud Wellness, a UK organisation working to make wellness services actually inclusive and affirming for queer people and professionals.

Championing self-directed learning: Until 2024, I co-led The Cabin and The Lodge—consent-based, self-directed settings for home-educated young people. I still occasionally get to work at The Lodge as cover, which I love and will always be grateful for everything I learned during my time there.

EVERYTHING I DO COMES BACK TO THE SAME TRUTH: YOU DON'T NEED FIXING. THE SYSTEMS DO.

A LITTLE MORE ABOUT ME

I’M WITCHY
A.F

& have always felt a connection to something bigger but didn’t know what. It wasn’t until I found tarot, oracle cards, spirituality and a regular witchy circle with friends that I leaned into this part of myself. My spiritual practice is a huge support in my work and wider life and I’m not sure where I’d be without it.

BODY
LIBERATION

was where my work began. I’m in recovery from eating disorders and originally set out to become a coach supporting people who wanted to divest from diet culture. As is often the case though, I learned there was so much more work to do after ditching dieting.

I’M NEURODIVERGENT (AUDHD)

Something I only found out in more recent times after parenting pushed me to realise that not everyone experiences alarmingly high levels of anxiety on a daily basis, or feels like an alien from another planet, or has a constant monologue in their head trying to figure out if they’re behaving correctly.

I’M QUEER
& GENDERQUEER

Two identities I didn’t feel able to explore until my early 30s. I thought maybe I’d feel like a woman when I was older, but turns out seeing an article about me in Pink News where I was described as a woman actually helped me realise I’m actually genderqueer.

WAYS TO WORK WITH ME

1-1 COACHING

Become more deeply connected to yourself, live in alignment with your neurotype and feel liberated to create the change you want to see.

SPEAKING & TRAINING

Challenge the status quo and ignite meaningful change through workshops on neurodiversity, neuroaffirming practice and creating inclusive futures.

ASK ME ANYTHING

Is there something you'd like my unique perspective on? Bold ideas, big decisions, creative projects - whatever you need.

QUALIFICATIONS

  • Diploma in Transformational Coaching
    - Animas Centre for Coaching, London (2018)

    CPD in Group Coaching & Facilitation
    - Animas Centre for Coaching, London (2019)

  • EFT Advanced Level 3 Practitioner
    - EFTMRA (2021)

    EFT Level 1 & 2 Practitioner
    - EFTMRA (2019)

    Matrix Reimprinting Practitioner
    - EFTMRA (2019)

  • FAA Level 3 Award in Supervising First Aid for Mental Health (2021)

    FAA Level 2 Award in First Aid for Youth Mental Health (2021)

    Advanced Safeguarding Children Level 2 (2023)

THE PODCAST

Listen as I chat to changemakers and thought leaders who are making waves with their work.

H ARLO-HARRIS

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ARLO WEST

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